Relationships-Part Two

There are a lot of different type's of Relationships.  There's the relationship between you and your boss, your co-worker's, your lover, your friends, your extended family, ie: Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, etc.. and your immediate family; Mom, Dad, Siblings, Grandparents, Spouse, kids....

But, no matter the relationship, It needs to be cultivated with Tender Loving Care!  Taking relationships for granted is something we all do at times, but the ones that have the strongest bonds, are the ones that you spend time on, every day.  The ones you constantly think: 'how can I let this person know I appreciate them?'

Life is way too short for conflict within relationships.  Especially those of family & friends!  If there's a rift in a particular relationship, ie: Dad!  Be the one to fix it.  Pursue it diligently. As in the case of your Father, Vin: He never learned how to express his feelings.  That was the main reason we split up.  I couldn't get him to talk with me, just talk.  He would never spend the effort to make me feel special in his life, and he was closed off emotionally to me.

He hasn't changed his pattern of behavior with his kids.  He Loves you, of that I have no doubt, but he doesn't know how to show you, to include you in his life.  So, therefore, it's up to you.

You have exhibited some of the same behavior patterns, and that scares me.  But, you're young enough to do something about it.  Go after that relationship with your Father.  Don't just let it slide, it's too important!

Your Dad isn't perfect, but he's a good man in many ways and I think you would both prosper from a relationship with each other.  Write him, apologize for hurting him that summer, even though you were just 15, and it's not wholly your fault, be the bigger man.  If you don't make an effort now, you may never get that chance.  I would hate for you to regret that!

As far as the other relationships in your life...Try making an effort to open up, don't be afraid of letting your feelings out, it can only help.  Let the people you care about know you care, with words and without.  

For example:  A phone call to me a couple times a month or more would speak volume's to the way you feel about me.  I don't just need to be told you love me, I, like most people need to be shown.  Being remembered on Mother's Day(more than a "happy mother's day" text!) would have meant the world to me.  I was told that you bought me something for Mother's Day and I was so touched!  But, here it is almost a month later and I haven't received so much as a card, OUCH!  It's not the gift or card that make the difference and warms my heart, it's the effort you put out in sending it. 

Putting forth a little effort can go a long way in any relationship.